What does it mean to have Confidence and Self-Esteem?
Being confident means that you are certain in your ability’s and strengths. You believe that your chosen course of action is the correct choice and that you know you can properly perform whatever you need to do or want to do. Confidence has more to do with interactions with the external world and self-esteem is all about the internal world of self.
"Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen"
Having high levels of confidence make you feel that you are sure you will achieve what you set out to do and maintain a steady sense of control over in your life. Confidence allows you to trust in your abilities, your power, and your judgment. Allowing you to feel comfortable in your ability to perform well in a variety of life tasks and while experiencing less anxiety and self-doubt than other people with low confidence. The next step from confidence is self-confidence meaning you are even higher levels than just confidence alone, you will be able to take risks to improve your circumstances, leading to a greater chance that you will succeed. The more a person believes in the self, the more empowered that person is likely to feel, especially with regard to trying new things. Self-confidence can also have a snowball effect on a person’s ability to achieve goals. Challenges often appear less daunting thanks to past successes, leading you to feel empowered and in control of your future.
If you are not feeling yourself confidence is one of the first things that can diminish, stopping you form doing the things you enjoy. When your confidence is lowered, the world can feel as if it is closing in, leaving us anxious and confused.
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do"
Low confidence causes us to struggle with assertiveness, communication skills, or social anxiety creating conflict in your career, relationships, and state of mind. Often feeling inferior, with little drive to succeed, lack direction in life, feel useless, or experiencing feelings of bitterness and resentmentt toward others.
Having self-esteem is more about our internal world, referring to your feelings about yourself, how much you appreciate and value yourself, how you judge your own appearance, emotions, and behaviours. Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs says that we need both esteem from other people as well as inner self-respect ourselves. If these needs are fulfilled it allows you to grow as an individual and allowing you to achieve self-actualization.
"Create yourself how you really want to be"
Self-esteem can help you be more motivated and successful in your life allowing you to achieve a more positive, assertive attitude to life and a knowing that you can accomplish your goals. If you believe that you are not capable of something, it can stop you from succeeding and living to your full potential.
If we have low self-esteem we are more likely to feel defeated or depressed and can also lead to making bad choices, falling into destructive relationships, or failing to live up to your full potential. If you are low in self-esteem you can feel unlovable, awkward and incompetent. You will be inclined to be hypersensitive, so by having fragile sense of self means that you can easily be wounded by others.
Low self-esteem causes us to be hypervigilant and hyperalert to signs of rejection and inadequacy, often seeing rejection and disapproval when there wasn’t any. Causing vulnerability to make mistakes, use poor judgement, do something embarrassing, expose self to ridicule, behave immorally or contemptibly. General everyday life can poses on ongoing threat to self-esteem.”
“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.”
If you perceive yourself negatively it can have a dramatic effect on your life e.g. If you believe that people don’t like you, you are more likely to avoid interactions with people isolating yourself and are quicker to react defensively, cynically, or even lash out. The more we belief this it becomes more and more difficult to believe that others could possibly see you in a positive light.
“Self-esteem as one of the basic human motivations”
Self-esteem is influenced by many factors which shape your personality and our experiences that form the basis for overall self-esteem. Consistently receiving overly critical or negative assessments from caregivers, family members, and friends, can cause low self-esteem. Other things can affect us too like how we think, illnesses, physical limitations, our job or disabilities.
“To have low self-esteem, is to live a life of misery,
So self-esteem levels at the extreme high and low ends of the spectrum can be harmful and destructive in our lives so it’s best to reach a balance somewhere in the middle. You need to aim for a realistic yet positive view of yourself to achieve a healthy balance. When self-esteem increases confidence usually follows. Too much self-esteem can be observed in narcissistic personality which can be off-putting to others and can even damage personal relationships.
How can hypnotherapy help?
The good news is that it is possible to overcome low confidence and self-esteem. Hypnotherapy is the simplest and most powerful way for calming and relaxing the, clearing and re-programme the patterns of unhelpful behaviours, negative self-talk, thinking and beliefs that have now become your barriers to finding self-worth. Taking back control so that you can develop trust in yourself allowing you to be the person you really want to be.
“True confidence & self-esteem allows you to let go, and trust yourself to do well”.
- Have a healthier self-image of yourself.
- Be calm and relaxed more easily.
- Create positive feelings and behaviours.
- Express your views and speak freely.
- Increase your motivation.
- Reach your goals and targets.
- Perform how you want to perform.
- Trust your ability’s and judgment.
- Socialise more effortlessly, enjoying the company of others.
- Do things that are different or out of your comfort zone.
“Hypnotherapy is a powerful & effective way to increase your confidence & self-esteem”
"The few who do, are the envy of the many who only watch".
I use a combination of hypnosis-trance, neuro linguistic programming, cognitive behavioural techniques and the latest neuroscience. You will be guided into a highly relaxed, hyper-aware state, allowing access directly to your subconscious mind to challenge your negative beliefs and behaviours.
“Drive knowing you can”
When we are able to reach self-actualization in our life it allows us to have a full realization of our creative, intellectual, or social potential. We are able to reach our full potential which is an extraordinary state to be, as most people are focused on daily life.
“I exist as I am, that is enough.”
If you possess self-actualisation you accept yourself as you are and others too, you are open, unconventional, lacking inhibition living a life which is guilt free and just enjoying life. You will have a sense of realism, so rather than being fearful of things which are different or unknown you are able to view life as it unfolds logically and rationally. Self-actualization allows you to be able to follow generally accepted social expectations, but not feel confined by the norms in your thoughts or behaviours. You will also be very independent and you don’t follow to other people’s ideas of happiness, yet you do like to help others improve their own life by using your problem solving skills. Allowing you to live in the moment, spontaneous and experiencing and enjoying each experience in life
“Achieving self-actualization allows for moments of transcendence which can materialises feelings of change and transformation”.
Hypnosis is completely natural, safe & relaxing. You will remain conscious and in complete control during the treatment.
All client data is kept strictly confidential.
Hypnotherapy individual sessions £65.00, including MP3. (Block bookings of 6 sesssions £325.00, a saving of £65.00).
Payment is required before a session begins and payment for block bookings is reqired before the first session begins.
We offer a free initial consultation before any treatment begins at the Bourne Practice.